So to all the young, unmarried Christian girls out there, listen up: who you marry matters. You might think that the way he treats you isn’t so bad. It’s not going to get better after the wedding. You might think that he’ll change. It’s possible, but most don’t. You might think that you’ll be able to minister to him and help him. Possibly, but if you can’t now, you won’t then, and you will be at risk yourself. A husband should lead and cherish you, not need your counsel for basic personality or behavior issues.
Unless someone married is very frank with you, you can’t understand how much a husband will impact your entire life. Next to salvation there is no other long term event that will change so many areas of your life so deeply. Here are just some of the ways that marriage will impact every aspect of living.
1. It will impact you spiritually. If the guy is not a believer, you can stop right there. You have no business yoking a redeemed soul with an unregenerate one, even if he seems open to change. Christ has bought you with a price and it is not an option to give away that blood bought heart to someone who doesn’t know and love your Lord. It will cripple your spiritual development, open up a host of temptations, stifle your prayer life, make regular church going difficult, and cause massive parenting conflict if you have children.
If the guy is a believer, is he a strong one? Will he lead you in prayer, Bible reading, family devotions, and public worship? Or will you be on your own? Is he going to make spiritual growth a priority or do other things come first? Is he going to ask you how it’s going with your soul so he can help you grow in holiness and love for Christ, or will he leave that to your pastor? Is he going to lead the children in this, or will you have to spearhead that? In church, is he going to help the kids sit well, pray, find the hymn, or will you be the one pointing out what is happening next and helping the family keep up? Many women have married spiritually immature men, thinking that it wasn’t a big issue, or that the man would change, and they were wrong. They bear the scars.
The health of your eternity is at stake. Think carefully.- http://thechristianpundit.org/2012/08/15/it/
Anonymous asked: Hello! According to the one child policy - where did you get your sources? :)
Hi, a ton of places. Here are the ones I can find:
And if you heard about China “easing” it’s policy, here are sources about why it’s too late:
The damage to society, human life, and women in general has been done. Decades of gendercide and human rights violations have hurt families and there is a whole generation of children who are “illegal” second children and are forbidden access to health care and education. China needs to abolish the policy, not merely tweak it for economic interests down the line.
The one child policy is real, still enforced, and has been since 1979.
I always feel awkward when people ask me “how I do it” to manage school, get good grades, 2 jobs and sleep. Honestly, there’s not much to it other than working really freakin’ hard to make projects good and writing down everything I have to do (in my favorite Semikolon notebook). Making list after list helps me manage time efficiently for school and work and it feels good to cross things off. If I’m staying up late, I might as well put in a little extra time to push my work further, taking in account the little details. Sleep is important too, and luckily I have Fridays off, which I use to recharge, buy groceries, clean my room, take naps, and watch tv. So there’s no secret, just hard work and making time to unwind and take care of yourself.